God wants to use the pain in your life to restore you

Pain is a profound gift if we will allow it to be. If you will let Jesus into your pain, He will show you all the false places of safety you have come to trust most.

Phil Manginelli

In December 2012, my family and I moved from Seattle to Atlanta to begin the process of planting a church. It was the beginning of one of the most supernatural and painful seasons of our lives.

My wife and I had been youth and college pastors for six years, and we had seen God do remarkable things in that time. We poured out our lives for our students, but we knew that God had put a new vision in our hearts. So, we packed up our kids and our lives, and moved across the United States.

Whenever you make a move like this, it is filled with vision, joy, faith and celebration. There was a palpable life in us to believe God for the impossible, and excitement filled every step we took. Until it didn’t.

The move was made. Our family was settled. In front of me was the terrifying task of planting a church from scratch in a city that had never been my home. It’s hard to put 2013 into the right words: lonely, fearful, insecurity-filled, daunting, anxiety-ridden … hard. Really, really hard.

I knew God had sent me to Atlanta to contend for the renewal of a city. What I didn’t know was that God had sent Atlanta to me to contend for the renewal of my heart. He had sovereign purposes He wanted to accomplish in my life, purposes I couldn’t have seen until He got me away from the crowd.

It was in this lonely place, where I felt like a failure with an impossible task, that Jesus began to reveal Himself to me in ways I had forgotten. Jesus wasn’t concerned that I would be a successful church planter; He was concerned that I would be a successful son. He wasn’t after what I could produce for Him; He was after my heart. In His kindness, He let pain surround me, to show me what I had been hiding: I had been lying to Him.

All my life I had told Jesus that He was enough for me. But in those lonely days of struggling to plant a church, I realized He wasn’t. Jesus-plus-being-known was enough for me. Once God put me into an environment where my name, gifts and talents became hidden, I was no longer satisfied alone in Jesus. I had to come to terms with the fact that there was an idol in my heart, and Jesus my King was coming to tear it down.

Jesus wasn’t concerned that I would be a successful church planter; He was concerned that I would be a successful son. He wasn’t after what I could produce for Him; He was after my heart.

Pain is a profound gift if we will allow it to be. Inherently, pain causes us to run to safety and to the places we trust. But if you will let Jesus into your pain, He will show you all the false places of safety you have come to trust most.

Pain will reveal our idols like nothing else. Jesus, in His mercy, knows it is only when all our idols are gone that we will thrive the way He created us to. We hate pain and avoid it at all costs; so many of us are living our entire lives worshiping false Gods in the secret place because we think they make us feel safe. But hear me: They don’t. They aren’t keeping you safe. They are ruining your life.

As pastors and leaders, we have a remarkable ability to sustain pain. I believe it is actually a beautiful trait and mark of those called to lead in Jesus’s name. But sustaining pain does not mean pain has not affected us. It has deeply affected us, and the more I get to know myself and my fellow leaders I realize that we just have better ways and language of hiding our pain than most do. More than anyone, we need to know Jesus the Healer and Restorer.

It’s not simply that you need to know God as Healer so you can lead your people to God the Healer. You need God the Healer because without Him, you won’t make it. It was allowing Jesus the Healer to rescue me from myself that has made me the pastor I am today.

Leading is hard. If your story is like mine, you have more bumps and bruises, cuts and curses, than you ever thought you’d encounter. Jesus the Healer wants to meet you there. He wants to find the idols and false allegiances, and uproot them from your life. He wants to save you. Let this be the year that we let Him do that.

is senior pastor of The Square (Smyrna 2 Foursquare Church) in Smyrna, Ga.
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Comments

  1. Phil. Thanks for this awesome honest story of Gods faithfulness within your personal journey. How often we miss the truth behind struggle and what it really means when we believe Jesus is enough.

  2. Really good Phil. Well stated, a lesson likely lost on many of us who have gone through the same. Thank you for putting a spot light on the true lesson and articulating it so well that we all can see it; perhaps for the first time.

  3. Phil, this is so profound and so important. As a family about to embark on a church plant in Denver next year, this is timely and has given me so much to talk to the Lord about. Thank you.

    1. Thanks for sharing your story!! We can relate so much. We moved from Oregon to NY to plant from scratch, in a place that wasn’t home. Hard!! So very true. We have discovered so much about ourselves in this planting journey. I’m thankful for a loving father who just wants our hearts to draw closer to Him. I believe God moved us for that very reason. Thanks for your honesty!

  4. Wow Phil! It is so amazing that I am reading this story at 1:06 am. It touches home in so many ways for me as I am going through what I am at this present time. This is God’s perfect timing. Yes there is and will be pain but I’m also believing that there will be a great redemption.
    Looking forward to seeing you at connection in just a few short weeks.

  5. This resonates deeply with me. Our outward journey with Jesus must always begin with our inward journey with him, sometimes to dark and painful places. Thank you so much for sharing your story. I am excited for you!

  6. Thank you so much for reviving in all of us the forgiveness and healing that only Jesus can give. I like others would love the rest of the story! God Bless!

  7. Thank you for your honesty. It doesn’t matter what our age, we should never stop growing in the Lord. We help each other when we are real with others.

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